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Perception vs. Reality

Posted on: February 13, 2012

Bedsharing isn't always pretty

Bedsharing proponents generally fall into one of two camps. The first kind is the “attachment parenting” type of parent that strongly believes that it is in the best interest of the baby to share a sleep space with the parents from birth. These parents will sometimes have a “family bed” where everyone in the family shares the same sleep space. Bonding and the emotional well-being of the baby is often sited as a primary goal for this group.

The second and most common group is the parents that have a crib or bassinet for their baby and plan for precious child to sleep the night through in his or her crib.  Unfortunately, no one informed junior of that plan.  After a night of singing, walking, rocking their darling, wide-eyed, screaming baby – these exhausted, anxious parents bring baby into bed with them because they can’t keep their eyes open one more moment and they have to get to work the next morning.  So in complete desperation they bring baby into bed with them in the frantic hope that they will get just 5 minutes of good sleep before the alarm goes off. This type of bedsharing parent is often referred to as the “Chaotic bedsharer”.

There is a raging debate amongst parents and professionals.  Advocates of bedsharing believe that it is:

  • Natural
  • Historical (It’s been done since the beginning of time.)
  • Facilitates breastfeeding
  • Helps with Bonding
  • Assists baby with healthy emotional development
  • Increases both parental and infant sleep time

Opponents of bedsharing believe that it is dangerous for the infant less than one year of age because it can increase the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS), accidental suffocation by overlay or by entrapment.

Whatever your belief, I think that we can all agree that neither parent is “evil” because they choose to bedshare.  But, the photo tells a truer picture of a night spent with a baby.  So, regardless of your parenting style, be prepared for a foot in your nose and another foot in your kidneys!  I wish all you parents a pleasant – “Good Night.”

Many thanks to bellyitchblog.com for this great photo!

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